What A Facebook Post By A Fellow Garden Enthusiast Taught Me About Life?

I’m a part of “Hyderabad Gardeners” Group on Facebook and I lately realized how sub consciously it is actually a virtual space I enjoy being a part of, even as a mere spectator. My feed gets beautified with some bright, delightful and pretty wide range of flowers, home grown veggies that make me harmlessly envious, well maintained gardens that so proudly display their owner’s passions. A tiny nook in the online world that keeps me in good spirits.

On one such day, I saw a post in the group by Priya Shankaran Satpathy, a fellow green lover and garden enthusiast. (The Group is a Private one so non members wouldn’t be able to see the pictures on Facebook).

There were about 15 odd photos as I recall and I repeatedly went over them in succession. It looked impressive. Warm, cozy, welcoming and so inviting. I didn’t have to be physically there to know that the space had such a positive vibe to it, I simply felt it through her post. Other than the beautifully written caption, what stood out for me was the way she had made a world of her own, how brilliantly imagined and how she decorated her little garden, the way she had taken time for her interest, the way she had created a space she could be proud of, a corner her family could go to anytime to unwind, a tiny escape from the daily mundane.

She knew she could create her heaven on earth and she did!

Her post got me into a reflective mood and I began thinking on a few lines which follows what the rest of this blog is.

Stop Complaining Start Doing

This has to be the first point since it hit me so hard. “I will make a lovely balcony garden” has been a statement I am making for at least 4 months if not more. There are enough pins on my Pinterest board, contact details of places I can buy pots, numbers of gardeners and nurseries and whatever ground work, one would need. But, somehow I haven’t been able to get going to it the way I had wanted – all the ifs, buts, whens, afters, have found heir place in my head.

Here she was, with no complaints of it being a small garden (6 by 12 space). Instead, from varieties of succulents to a small lily pond to a Buddha statue fountain, to plant hangers she had smartly utilized and maximized every bit of the space.

If there’s something you want, go do it, go achieve it for yourself. Whining doesn’t add one bit to the solution. If you don’t like something, whatever it may be, change it. If you can’t change it, change yourself!

Individuality is Important for happiness

Every human being is different, unique in their own ways. As much as you may resemble your parents, siblings, cousins or BFFs, the core is that of being an individual with your own identity. When you have the choice to do things that matter to you, of course well within the realms of your family responsibilities, the happier you can be and the better you’ll contribute to your family. The other person is not there to complete you or define you and it’s critical that you strive to maintain a strong sense of independence and your well-developed point of view.